Government Gridlock and Good Ideas

Some people deride 'government gridlock', where both parties appear too set in their ways, too wedded to their ideas, and too deaf to the other party's leaders to accomplish anything.

Government is working exactly as it's supposed to... For example: Conservative representatives were 'hired' (elected) to advance those philosophies and ideals by their constituents, not to help advance philosophies and ideals which are anathema to them. Likewise liberals. So while some people may deride the "gridlock" I posit that it's working perfectly.

When Republicans act like Democrats -- spending too much, taxing too much -- they lose elections, because those are NOT the principles which they were elected to advance. Their constituents become disillusioned and vote them out the next election cycle.

While most may not feel the system is perfect, the system is designed to allow the citizens' interests to be represented. Deals are made between the parties when there is proximate congruency between their governing philosophies. Every politician tries to balance the needs and wishes of their constituents and the need to compromise their ideals with the opposition party... that's called "politics" and it's certainly not limited to Conservatives or Liberals exclusively.

There's no 'super majority' requirement; seems to me that we had TARP, a stimulus bill, a jobs bill, and other legislation passed in the last year-plus, in both houses of Congress and with some level of participation from both parties. It's utterly unfair to expect that a representative should vote in favor of a piece of legislation with which they do not agree. That's ridiculous, and though today we see that the Republicans are standing firm against something that, let's face it, two-thirds of the country doesn't want passed, in the not-so-distant past the shoe was on the other foot. In typical Liberal fashion, when they vote against something or protest something, it's fine and good and just; when they propose something with which their opposition disagrees, that opposition is belittled, tarred, feathered and emasculated.

Political opponents CAN have excellent ideas, and sometimes do; but if both parties always thought that the other side's ideas were good, we'd have only ONE party -- because they'd essentially be the same. And no matter your particular leaning, you must admit that would not be good for the country.

As a final thought: Republicans win elections only when they run as conservatives, regardless of what you see and hear in the media about "moderate Republicans". And Democrats can only win elections when they run as centrists or moderates, suppressing their liberal, statist, leftist leanings and inclinations.

Obama ran as a moderate. Remember?

More Conversation Sins

I was pondering additional Conversation Sins, but I don't want to go back and edit the previous post. That's ugly. I'm a writer, not an editor. :-)

The Laugher

This one cracks me up... so to speak. The Laugher finds absolutely anything and everything just a little funny -- not rib-tickling, side-splitting funny, but funny enough to laugh. They laugh at good news, bad news, stock tickers, random Churchill quotes -- everything. You can tell it's a nervous tic, but you're powerless to either ignore it, or join in. At least they don't look expectantly at you the way someone does after they tell you a joke, waiting for you to laugh so that they can continue the conversation. The Laugher is perfectly content to laugh alone.

The Yes Man


During conversations we all go through periods where we nod to keep the speaker moving along, or mumble "Uh huh" when there's a brief silence (and it's obvious the speaker is expecting a response of some sort). The Yes Man makes prodding noises and mumbles prodding words during your sentences.

A: "Last night I was..."

B: "Uh huh."

A: "...looking at my old..."

B: "Yeah."

A: "...collection of used bandages..."

B: "Mmm hmmm."

The Fortune Cookie


This person has eaten WAY too many fortune cookies. No matter the subject matter they have a fortune cookie-type cliche response ready to go. It makes you wonder how they collect and store them!

A: "I don't know how I passed Calculus in college."


B: "The definition of a college professor is someone who talks in other people's sleep."


A: "Right.. my roommate aced his Calc final somehow. I think he cheated."


B: "A best friend is like a four leaf shamrock: hard to find and lucky to have."


A: "Whoa. You know, I just remembered this doctor's appointment I scheduled. I hate to get going."


B: "Embrace change, don't battle it."

Deadly Conversation Sins

I read an article today on the "Ten Deadly Conversation Sins" people commit. While I didn't agree with the author's selections, I did like the idea, and so I am creating my own list here:

1. Mine is Better

Imagine you have just finished relating a funny story from your teen years. This person simply must top you: "If you think that's funny, let me tell you this." They need to both top your story and belittle it, without allowing time for discussion or reaction. It’s a common tactic for people with little-to-no self esteem.

2. Too Much or Too Little Eye Contact

You’re sitting in a meeting with co-workers, and the speaker seems to be intently concentrating on you, and you alone; their attention and gaze never seems to waver, making you feel as though you are being either ‘mentally undressed’ or considered for the evening’s main course. The flipside to this maniacal stare is the one-on-one conversation with the person who looks through you, or everywhere BUT you; they’re speaking to you, but looking at the floor, the ceiling, their cellphone, and nitrogen molecules off to their left…

3. Neither Hearing nor Listening

It’s bad enough when you’re in a loud environment and trying to speak to the person next to you, when you have to shout just to be heard; you’re forced to repeat yourself over and over, but you can tell yourself that this is understandable. But when the environment is calm and the extraneous noise is at a minimum, shouldn’t you be heard the first time you say something? Assuming you’re using a normal conversational tone of voice, and not speaking sotto voce, it’s an irritant when the other person seems either utterly uninterested in what you’re saying, or else is partially interested (and hearing every fifth word or so)… both situations force you to repeat, repeat, repeat until they’ve heard you.

4. Bad Jokes

Have you ever been in a conversation with someone when, out of the blue, they decide to interject a completely idiotic or tasteless joke? They have the temerity to actually wait for you to laugh before continuing, when all you can think is, “Does this person actually believe that was funny???”

5. Self Promotion

I love meeting someone who introduces themselves via their resume, education, or celebrity ties. It's obnoxious, but at least it’s funny – and I know right away that this will be a very, very short conversation (if I have anything to say about it!). You know the type: “Hi, I’m Sally, and I graduated summa cum laude from Harvard. Do you want to try a pastry with your latte?”

6. It’s ALL About Me

This person is a slight variation on the “Mine is Better” person; this person isn’t necessarily competing with you to see whose story or anecdote is better, because this person really has no interest in your story or anecdote. They can barely fake any interest, preferring instead to simply ramble on and on ad nauseum about themselves.

7. Thy Name is Negativity

Some days you just feel blue, but for this person, it’s every day. You have met this person and been subjected to their overpowering negativity: “So I was late for work because my car wouldn’t start, which always happens to me on mornings when I have to be in at a specific time for a meeting; then my boss of course makes me stay late, like always, even though he doesn’t care about the number of hours I put in LAST week. Then I get home and find that I forgot my keys in the car, so I couldn’t unlock my front door – but then I couldn’t get my keys because the car automatically locked the door. This stuff always happens to me. Last night at dinner my steak was overcooked, and the mashed potatoes were too runny, and then I found I had a bunion on my left foot, which of course I couldn’t see the doctor about because…” Blah blah blah.

8. Short and Not Sweet

Answering in-depth questions with simple one-word answers that don’t match the question is a cardinal sin. Short answers are usually indicative of either disinterest or anger, neither of which is conducive to a good conversation, and this person doesn’t feel either way. They are just trying to leave the conversation – EVERY conversation.

9. Chatty McChatterbox

The opposite of the Short and Not Sweet answer is the answer that is so detailed and so granular (and generally veers so far off-topic as to be in a different zip code than the actual answer) that you fall asleep before it ends.

10. Chatting with the ADD Person

I think we’ve all had this sort of conversation:

A: “How was the ballgame last night?”

B: “It was great! When I got to the stadium I… wait, where did I put my cellphone?”

A: “What happened when you got to the stadium?”

B: “Oh, I got a great parking spot, right near the main gate. I love getting… did I tell you about my mother’s gout?”

A: “Hold on. I saw a play on SportsCenter from the game, where it looked like the referee made the wrong call. You were there, what did you think?”

B: “That ref was as blind as my great Aunt Matilda! Why, anyone with an ounce of sense… Is that something shiny over there?”